It’s natural to seek out the opinions of others and to value their thoughts and perspectives. However, it’s important to remember that ultimately, the most important opinion is your own. Here are a few tips for how to stop letting the opinions of others influence you too much:
- When you ask for someone’s opinion or insight, 99% of the time from an unprofessional you will receive a projection of that person’s limitations and possibilities. It actually has nothing to do with you
- Ask if you need some care: sometimes you ask for someone’s advice because you just need some care
- Consistent catch-ups: This is more like consistent people who know what is going on in your life. It’s not like you are asking them for advice, you are just in constant connection and that is some sort of re-assurance or stability that you need
- Go for Character: Some people have a strong moral compass and uncompromising values. We look to these people to help us see clearly when we are not sure of what we believe is right
- People’s thoughts don’t affect your reality unless you let it: Someone’s thought of you being weak, insecure, anxious, useless, or untalented. That thought they have no basis in your reality, when you internalize that thought then it affects you
- Trust your intuition with small things: We can get away with outsourcing some of these smaller decisions in our lives but when it comes to the bigger things in life we can’t. To be able to make the big decisions in our lives we have to start with the smaller things
- Practice self-awareness and mindfulness. Take time to understand your own thoughts and emotions, and try to separate them from the influence of others.
- Set boundaries. It’s okay to tell people that their opinions aren’t relevant or helpful to you and to set limits on how much influence they have in your life.
- Seek out a diverse range of perspectives. Rather than just listening to one or two people, try to gather a variety of viewpoints on a topic. This can help you come to your own conclusions rather than simply accepting the opinions of others
By following these tips, you can begin to break free from the influence of others and trust in your own judgment. It’s important to remember that while the opinions of others can be valuable, it’s ultimately up to you to make your own decisions and live your life in a way that is authentic and true to yourself.
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