Quarrels – Thunderstorms Among People

Why do arguments happen in the first place and how can we reconcile? Find out here!

Arguing is completely normal

Arguing is something completely normal among people. People are simply all totally different. Everyone has their own opinions and interests. And that’s a good thing. Because if all people were the same, it would be pretty boring.

Causes of quarrels

It is precisely because of the differences between all of us that arguments can arise. For example, when you disagree with someone. You know this for sure. You want to go to a disco at the weekend, but your friends would rather watch a DVD. And there you go.

But emotions are also often the cause of arguments. Every one of us has a bad day and sometimes we say or do things that hurt others. And there it is again, the argument.

Quarrels do not have to be negative

But quarrels are not generally negative. Quite the opposite. Quarrels can often have the effect of a storm that clears the air and makes the sky shine blue again. In an argument, people often finally tell each other what’s wrong with the other person and then they understand each other much better again.

Arguing – but the right way!

Surely you have also heard two people arguing. This is particularly unpleasant if you know both parties to the dispute.

TIP — Two are arguing – how should you behave?

In such situations it is very important that you stay out of the argument. Also tell the two “quarrelling parties” that you like both of them and that they should work it out between themselves. Otherwise it can easily happen that you are dragged into the argument and that both of them end up being angry with you.

TIP:

Reconciliation

Reconciliation is part of an argument. Be brave and take the first step. A sincere apology is always well received. Be creative and come up with something special. Maybe you can bring over your favorite pizza or frame a picture of you and your ‘quarrel partner’ in a special way.

A chance for a fresh start

So remember: a fight doesn’t have to mean the end of a friendship or relationship, but is always a chance for a new beginning. With this in mind, have fun reconciling. However, if you feel that an argument is putting a lot of strain on you, then get help.

For further help and support  — Speak with a licensed therapist today.