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Tests of courage as a sign of friendship? You should think about this…
You want to belong to a certain clique that demands a test of courage from you or you are supposed to prove to your friends that you are not a coward. Should I or shouldn’t I? – is perhaps the question that torments you.
How should you behave?
First of all, you should think about whether you want to be friends with someone for whom you first have to prove your friendship – namely with a test of courage.
It is actually better to be friends with someone because they like you as a person and enjoy spending time with you.
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It’s better to do without tests of courage
It’s generally a good idea to avoid tests of courage. They usually only bring trouble.
You might get caught stealing and have to go to the police, be grounded by your parents or even hurt yourself.
You may have heard that dares can sometimes have bad consequences. For example, some young people have lost their lives climbing on parked train cars.
There are behaviours that generally go too far. No matter what the reason, it is absolutely not okay to hit, hurt or hold someone. In fact, you are committing a criminal offence.
Remember: Even if you pass the test of courage, there is no guarantee that you will be accepted into the clique!
If there has to be a test of strength, then suggest a sporting competition, for example a swimming race or winning a game.
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How to get in touch – without a dare
If you want to belong to a certain clique, just be yourself. For example, organize a party to which you invite this group. This gives them the opportunity to get to know you better.
You could also try to approach a single person from the clique when you meet them alone. Once you have made contact with one person, it is easier for you to make the leap into the group.
Maybe friends of yours have contact with the clique. They can then act as mediators.
Who is really brave?
Remember that the one who is really brave is the one who dares to do only what he really wants to do. You are always courageous if you trust your feelings and only agree if you have a good feeling about it. Everything that frightens you should definitely be left alone.
We wish you the courage to realize your own wishes!
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